Divorcing parents may struggle with the idea that their divorce can have a negative impact on their children. Even if they know the divorce is the right thing to do, they want to mitigate this negative impact as much as possible.
Fortunately, if you find yourself in this position, there are numerous things you can do to put your kids first and ensure that this goes as smoothly as possible for them. Here are three different things to keep in mind.
1. Talk about their emotions
Children often feel anxiety and guilt during a divorce. They may act out with behavioral issues. It’s important to give them time to talk about their emotions – and to give those emotions the respect they deserve. When talking about the divorce, make sure that you give the children time to ask questions and express themselves, as well.
2. Present a united front
Additionally, you want it to appear to the children that you and your ex are a united front. You both still love them. You are both still going to work together to parent them, even when you’re not married. Be respectful of your ex in front of the children, even if the two of you disagree in private.
3. Be calm and positive
Children really learn a lot from the behavior that they see their parents model. If you appear agitated and emotionally drained, they may take on some of those attributes. But if you are calm and positive about how the future is going to be good for you and the children, they will also absorb that perspective.
If you’re even thinking about putting the children first during your divorce, it means you’re on the right track. Be sure you understand the legal tools you can use to do so.